The Futility of Comparison: Homeschooling Style

Crater Lake, 2007

What has been on my mind? It is something that every homeschooling mom thinks about from time to time. Comparisons….comparing our homeschool to other homeschools we read about in books and on the internet.

I know for a fact that many of you reading this blog entry have found yourself in the place where you feel as if “everyone else” is doing more than you are and that in some way you are slacking. I want to share something that encourages me when I start to feel that way.

It is from a forum post many years ago, I think from the Sonlight Forums. I didn’t save the original writer’s name but I will admit freely that she says it better than I could ever express. Don’t give me credit for her wisdom, I am just the messenger today. (If anyone happens to know who wrote this, please let me know.)


“We tend to look at homeschool mom A, who is doing great science experiments; homeschool mom B, whose kids are great musicians; homeschool mom C, whose kids read 17 books per week; and homeschool mom D, whose child just won a national art contest. Then we think ALL the moms are doing ALL those things, and we think we don’t measure up. All we do is play fun math games. But other moms look at us and think, ‘Wow, I wish I could even REMEMBER the math game ideas she makes up.’ “We tend to forget that we are all different, and we do different things. There probably is something that you do that many other homeschool moms wish they could do. Even if there isn’t, God gave you YOUR kids, because He knew YOU could do the best for them. “It is too easy to compare, and too hard to be content where we are. All the homeschool moms that you think have it all together are thinking of somebody else, or something else, that they would like to do, too.

Isn’t that the best? I have this in my planner and remind myself frequently that we all have our own gifts. We all have our own styles. Our children are our children and we know them better than anyone else and what they need in our homeschooling.

I may look like I have it all together when you read my blog but I am just like you and have my serious doubts about things too. ๐Ÿ™‚

Lake Tahoe, Emerald Bay, 2007

Just like I would never compare the two majestic lakes in this blog entry to each other, we need not measure ourselves up to someone else’s yardstick. Each of us is a beauty in itself….no need to compare.

Hope this is encouraging to someone.
Barb-Harmony Art Mom

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